Feeling let down…

Today was the day we had to take Little Miss A to the hospital for her tongue tie to be snipped.  I was hoping to be able to come back and tell you all about the wonderful experience we had.  Unfortunately (but not unsurprisingly given my past experiences with the NHS!) that is not the case.

When we went in to see the Dr and he asked how she was feeding.  We explained she was being bottle fed and that although she was feeding she was not having as much as she should and therefore we had been advised to have her tounge tie dealt with by our GP and Health Visitor to see if that helped her.

We popped her on the bed and he had a look in her mouth.  When he did, obviously, she had a little cry, wouldn’t you if some stranger put their fingers in your mouth?!  He then turned around and said he wouldn’t do it today he wanted to do it under anesthetic at a later date!  Both Big Mr A and I looked at each other in bewilderment.  We explained again to the Dr why we were there i.e. because we had been referred by our GP.

He then said that if she was a breastfed baby and having problems he would have done it there and then.  This is when I went into a bit of a meltdown!  I was already, understandably, a bit stressed about having to put my baby through such an ordeal without the ‘B’ word coming up again!  I said to him, as best I could through my tears (!), ‘So if I was breastfeeding you would do it today?’.  His basic answer was ‘yes’.  I asked what the difference was, we had been referred because of her ‘feeding’ issues, surely it doesn’t matter how they are being fed?!!  He said those were the guidelines for breastfed babies, there are no guidelines for bottle fed babies – don’t they think there should be?!

Reluctantly, he agreed to do it (probably just to stop me making ant more of a scene!) but said she would probably cry!  Er, no *@#” Sherlock, I’d never thought of that, we were just here for a nice morning out!  When I asked if it would hurt her, he just shrugged his shoulders!  I know you can’t ask a baby if something hurts but surely with his experience he must know whether it hurts or is just uncomfortable?!

Anyway I am pleased to say the procedure itself was fine – well so Big Mr A told me – I couldn’t face being in the room, as much as I wanted to be there for her I am just too squeamish and I knew she had her Daddy with her so she wasn’t alone.  Yes, she screamed for a couple of minutes but after that she was fine.  There was a little bit of blood but she didn’t appear to be in any pain.

I did apologise to the Dr for getting upset but it is hard enough to make these decisions for your children without being made to feel even worse.  I appreciate there are guidelines to be followed but maybe it’s about time the NHS started treating both breastfeeding and bottle feeding Mummies the same and had guidelines for both.

I wish they had told me when she was born just to get her tongue tie dealt with then we wouldn’t have had any of these worries.  At the time they said it may or may not need doing and it was up to us.  We weren’t really given any information about it.  I would say to anyone wondering whether or not to get it done – just do it whilst they are tiny!

My brave little princess after her ordeal xxx

My brave little princess after her ordeal xxx

To top it all off we were told to stay at the hospital for 5-10 minutes to make sure the bleeding stopped so we decided to go to the cafe for the only thing I had been looking forward to, a Mocha!  Big Mr A put his money in the machine and it said there were no cups left.  As we were in the cafe he asked one of the staff for a cup only to be told they couldn’t give him one!

I am so glad today is over with and hope we don’t have to make any more trips to the hospital any time soon.

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Feeding troubles

At the moment we are having a few problems with Little Miss A’s feeding and weight gain.  Last week we thought we had turned a corner as she was drinking more milk per feed and feeding more often, however, this week she seems to have gone back to her old ways!  She is only drinking 3-4 oz per feed (with the occasional 5oz feed) which, for a 12 week old baby is less than she ‘should be’ drinking.  She is still having 6 feeds a day with one through the night, however, this feed seems to be getting later and most nights she does not wake until 4-5am.

Little Miss A enjoying her milk last week!

Little Miss A enjoying her milk last week!

I take her to get weighed every week at the moment and although she is putting on weight, it is not as much as the health visitor would like.  She is now 11lb 1oz and is following just below the 25th centile line.

I am trying not to concern myself too much with how much she feeds as she seems to be happy and content most of the time and is starting to stay awake more to play.  When she does play she is very active and strong, wriggling away and even trying to roll over on occasion!

We are having her tounge tie snipped in a couple of weeks and are hoping she may be able to take more at a feed after that, however, we are not convinced!  It does not seem to be that she gets tired sucking, it seems that she just can’t take any more than 3-4 oz at a feed.

We have tried getting her into a routine, however, this was not successful at all!  We are now trying to relax a bit more and let her feed when she is ready, however, not letting her sleep for too long before feeds during the daytime.

Everyone in my family is quite small (me at 5’3 is the tallest on my Mum’s side of the family!) and I am hoping that she is just going to be petite rather than having problems feeding.

DId anyone else’s little ones not feed much?  If so, did it rectify when they started weaning or have you now got a fussy eater?!  Would love to hear other people’s experiences, Little Mr A was always such a good feeder it’s not something we have experience of!

Little Mr A always loved his milk!

Little Mr A always loved his milk!

What a week!

I knew the past month was too good to be true!  After a great 4 weeks things have taken a turn for the worse!

For starters Little Mr A has been somewhat challenging. He does not listen to anything I tell him at all and has wet himself twice this week when getting home from school. I think it is just attention seeking as Little Miss A is taking up a lot of our time at the moment. Thankfully he seems to be getting on much better at school and I have not been called to see the teacher since half term!

As for Little Miss A, she has started fussing with her milk. She will only take 2-3 ounces at a time rather than the 4-5 she should be taking. It is taking ages to even get that down her and she keeps falling asleep before she has finished! This means she is only staying satisfied for 2-3 hours before she starts getting grisly. During the day it Is not too much of a problem but at night it is starting to wear a bit thin and neither me nor Big Mr A have had any decent periods of sleep this week! We have changed her to faster flowing teats now which seems to be helping a bit!

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To top it all off we have had to spend nearly £400 on the car this week.  Just what we need before Christmas!

Fingers crossed next week will be easier (or at least less expensive!).