Don’t get me wrong, I am loving being a mummy again and really enjoying being at home and being able to pick up Little Mr A from school everyday as well as spending lots of time with Little Miss A, however, when I thought about being a SAHM, I didn’t realise the ‘S’ stood for slave!
I don’t mind doing the pots, washing, ironing, cleaning, meal planning, online shop, cooking or getting the kids ready, bathed, fed or even feeding the dog, however, I do sometimes feel it is taken for granted and maybe a little bit more appreciation wouldn’t go amiss! Big Mr A, if you are reading, there are no ‘fairies’ that come and do these things!
Little Mr A just expects me to do all these things and more often than not I have to drop a subtle hint that a thank-you would be appreciated. Big Mr A can be just as bad! Quite often he will drop a comment about what we are having to eat that week which may not seem like a big deal to him but actually it’s quite offensive when I have spent ages trying to think of interesting things we can eat rather than having the same stuff week in week out.
It wasn’t so bad when I was on maternity leave with Little Mr A. We could laze around in bed for a couple of hours watching TV but now I have to get up to get Little Mr A ready for school, his lunchbox packed and get him to school on time. I don’t have a car so we have to get out the house on time or he will be late!
I’m sure I am probably more appreciated than I think but some weeks I would love to take off on my own and leave them to it or swap roles with Big Mr A for the week. I appreciate that he has to go out to work everyday but sometimes I long for that again, just having a bit of me time and adult conversation!
It is the same when it comes to holidays. When Big Mr A is off, he is off. He will watch TV, play playstation etc. When do I get a holiday?!
Don’t get me wrong I am quite lucky, Big Mr A is helpful most of the time but sometimes I wish he would just think for himself rather than asking or having to be told what needs doing!
Anyway I am sure all us mum’s feel unappreciated and ‘used’ some of the time and I suppose I am luckier than some as I do have a husband that will help. He is brilliant with the children when they are being hard work. Tonight he came home and had to deal with Little Mr A who had been sat at the table for over an hour refusing to eat his tea. He was really calm with him but in the end had to carry him kicking and screaming to bed as he would just not listen! This meant he has not seen Little Miss A at all today as she was asleep when he left for work and went to bed as he was putting Little Mr A to bed. He does let me have a lie in at the weekend too (but I won’t feel guilty about that unless he starts getting up to do the night feeds!).
Sometimes I just wish I could have a bit of ‘me’ time back! Maybe I just need a good night out!